I am exactly the same in real life, although the charm I use to get my opinion across in person doesn't really come across on the Internet.Genuine question Scara - are you exactly the same in real life as you are on this forum?
And have you ever been tested for autism? Read an interesting book 'The Essential Difference' recently which theorises that autism is just an 'extreme male brain', with very low empathy and very high systemisation.
It's not that I don't understand the feelings of others, I just don't care. I can feel empathy if I choose to, but it's far easier to succeed in life with it "switched off" for want of a better term.