Ultimately we all know the hardship of losing someone close and yes it impacts everyone differently. I lost a mate from suicide and it hit me hard and still does to an extent, however, and as harsh as it sounds, everyone gets a level of leeway with grief, we all do or at least should from those around us and work etc, however there is a point where the harsh reality is, it can't be a long term excuse for a long decline in performances, that not me being harsh, that just realistic