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Where and how did you meet your partner?

I met my ex wife through my sister, they both worked together and I went to their works Christmas party as my sisters plus one, we was married 2 years later and we stayed married until this summer, 31 years later.

Not that I want to get into another relationship now, but the thought of dating apps scares the hell out of me as well
 
dingdongo said:
I've never done it but what do you mean timewasters? You mean they just want to hook up and don't want a relationship kind've thing? The idea of online dating would scare the hell out of me but I assume it's pretty normal for a lot of people nowadays
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If someone comes away from these apps telling you "Oh all these time wasters, it's just too many casual hook ups" they're either lying about all the casual hookups or are in fact using an app for escorts rather than a dating one.

Each to their own on the app front but I guess the issue is either stale conversations "How are you?" "Good, you?" "Yeah I'm good too" etc etc or people maybe misrepresenting themselves visually or in terms of vibes. I don't know if speed dating is still a thing but I'd rather do that than give some Elon Musk type clown shoe money out of my pocket because I was too shy to actually make a connection in real life. That said it has worked for many people I know in now long term relationships so it works for some.
 
I walked into a bar/club to see a band. They'd already gone on and finished their set. My mate and I were about to leave when I looked to my left at the long bar top and saw a gorgeous women at the end of the bar leaning on one elbow, casually smoking a cigarette. We caught each other's eye, I immediately pulled a 'full cheeser' and whizzed an ashtray down the long bar counter to her, she stopped it dead with her hand and winked. I made my way over to her, we started talking, I was intoxicated by everything about her...26 years later we've been on many, many figurative and emotional journeys together, but she is still the one, always will be, has that scent of magic and mystery about her, and those eyes...
 
dingdongo said:
I've never done it but what do you mean timewasters? You mean they just want to hook up and don't want a relationship kind've thing? The idea of online dating would scare the hell out of me but I assume it's pretty normal for a lot of people nowadays
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Yes it is very much the norm now, and I dont know why so many say the idea of dating apps scare them, its really not that bad! Although I guess easy for me to say, having been on them since I was about 23 with Tinder and now 39 and still find myself on some of them :D Comes with its pros and cons but the standout for me is you meet many people you would never meet if dating apps didnt exist, bascially having a much wider circle of women (or men) for you to date. But that is very much part the main drawback too - you can get sucked into the dating app bubble, and when you are seriously dating someone/in a relationship rather than do what you would do before dating apps existed and work on your current relationship when you encounter a problem, I would just call it off and get straight back on the dating app and find my next victim. Rinse and repeat.

It never really bothered me because I wasn't ready to settle down and enjoyed more casual relationships. But more recently I have been ready to settle down and it took me a long while to realise that having all these choices and being so easily accessible was detrimental to finding a true genuine connection with someone. Now, I am seriously dating someone who I see a future with, but cant help but still take a sneaky peek at the apps now and again. They very much serve a purpose regardless of whether that purpose is casual or something more substantial, but just try and make sure you dont get sucked into that dating app bubble. I see so many people still on these apps that I remember seeing years ago which is rather telling I think.....
 
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I walked into a bar/club to see a band. They'd already gone on and finished their set. My mate and I were about to leave when I looked to my left at the long bar top and saw a gorgeous women at the end of the bar leaning on one elbow, casually smoking a cigarette. We caught each other's eye, I immediately pulled a 'full cheeser' and whizzed an ashtray down the long bar counter to her, she stopped it dead with her hand and winked. I made my way over to her, we started talking, I was intoxicated by everything about her...26 years later we've been on many, many figurative and emotional journeys together, but she is still the one, always will be, has that scent of magic and mystery about her, and those eyes...
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Go on then, I'll believe you. There is just enough cheese to make this plausible.
 
I met my wife at the works Xmas party. 70s theme. Fancy dress. Curly wig. Did NOT want to do any of those things.
Both VERY drunk else it wouldn't have proceeded.
My work colleague (and future wife) came up to me and said "I'll see you outside in 5 minutes".
I said "Eh, what...why?" and she walked off.
2 minutes later she stormed back up to me and said "Where were you?"
I said "It's only been 2 minutes hasn't it?"
Regardless, she dragged me outside, round the side of the tent and onto the 18th green of the golf course.
That was 25 years ago, still happily married. Thank GHod for alochol.
 
dingdongo said:
I've never done it but what do you mean timewasters? You mean they just want to hook up and don't want a relationship kind've thing? The idea of online dating would scare the hell out of me but I assume it's pretty normal for a lot of people nowadays
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Yeah some just want hook ups, some want to endlessly message without meeting, some are already in relationships, some join without having figured out what they're looking for. You get all kinds on there, only takes 5 minutes to set up a profile.

Plus obviously people judge on photos and if you exchange a few messages and you don't have the type of personality or writing style that catches attention initially then you can be judged on that too.

This is all from a mate of mine who's been on them for years, sounds like you do widen the pool of prospective people to meet at the very least. Worth giving some a go at least.
 
First year university. Journalism school. Made friends with a sexy blonde in my course. Became great pals and were clearly headed for a romance. Walked into the student cafeteria one morning and there she is seated at a table with a group of girls, one of whom I recognized as her room mate. As I sat down in front of the room mate she mishandled her plate and her strawberry muffin rolled off the table. I caught before it hit the floor. We had a good laugh about it, puns aplenty about handling her muffin.

Couple of weeks later, I've got concert tickets from my campus rep job for CBS Records (now Sony Music). The blonde said she couldn't go, saying her former boyfriend was having a bad time in Ottawa and she had to go see him. Oh.

Bumped into her room mate in a hallway lounge next day and after a brief moan about the blonde skipping our date, she volunteered to see the show with me. Off we went, drank merrily at a wine bar near the arena, went to the show (Moody Blues. Yawn) and proceeded to tinkle off everyone around us with our non-stop chatter. Left the show early and went back to the wine bar. Had a fun night, walked her home but slept alone on the couch.

Became friends over the days that followed. She was a former ski racer and I enjoyed skiing so we decided to hit a hill north of Toronto. Nearly there and my old beater car overheats and, by good fortune, we coast into a service centre in a cloud of steam. While the car got fixed, we ate at the lunch counter while gabbing away. We still laugh about ordering the menu's 'home made chili' and soon hearing the sound of an electric can opener.

The car repaired, we hit the hill for a fun afternoon and burgers and beer back home. A few days later, I'm in a group just behind her a bit on campus and couldn't stop watching the way her well formed backside moved as she walked ahead in tight jeans and tall boots. And that was it. I knew I was hooked. With her blonde room mate now visiting Ottawa every weekend, my sleepovers weren't on the couch anymore.

We wound up living together the following year, lived apart briefly when work and other factors made it prudent but never wavered in our commitment. We were shacked up a few years before tying the knot. This summer, our son and daughter will join us at our cottage with friends and family as we celebrate 35 years of marriage and 40 years owning the cottage.

And I'm still her muffin man. She, erm, bakes delicious gluten free ones, too.
 
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First year university. Journalism school. Made friends with a sexy blonde in my course. Became great pals and were clearly headed for a romance. Walked into the student cafeteria one morning and there she is seated at a table with a group of girls, one of whom I recognized as her room mate. As I sat down in front of the room mate she mishandled her plate and her strawberry muffin rolled off the table. I caught before it hit the floor. We had a good laugh about it, puns aplenty about handling her muffin.

Couple of weeks later, I've got concert tickets from my campus rep job for CBS Records (now Sony Music). The blonde said she couldn't go, saying her former boyfriend was having a bad time in Ottawa and she had to go see him. Oh.

Bumped into her room mate in a hallway lounge next day and after a brief moan about the blonde skipping our date, she volunteered to see the show with me. Off we went, drank merrily at a wine bar near the arena, went to the show (Moody Blues. Yawn) and proceeded to tinkle off everyone around us with our non-stop chatter. Left the show early and went back to the wine bar. Had a fun night, walked her home but slept alone on the couch.

Became friends over the days that followed. She was a former ski racer and I enjoyed skiing so we decided to hit a hill north of Toronto. Nearly there and my old beater car overheats and, by good fortune, we coast into a service centre in a cloud of steam. While the car got fixed, we ate at the lunch counter while gabbing away. We still laugh about ordering the menu's 'home made chili' and soon hearing the sound of an electric can opener.

The car repaired, we hit the hill for a fun afternoon and burgers and beer back home. A few days later, I'm in a group just behind her a bit on campus and couldn't stop watching the way her well formed backside moved as she walked ahead in tight jeans and tall boots. And that was it. I knew I was hooked. With her blonde room mate now visiting Ottawa every weekend, my sleepovers weren't on the couch anymore.

We wound up living together the following year, lived apart briefly when work and other factors made it prudent but never wavered in our commitment. We were shacked up a few years before tying the knot. This summer, our son and daughter will join us at our cottage with friends and family as we celebrate 35 years of marriage and 40 years owning the cottage.

And I'm still her muffin man. She, erm, bakes delicious gluten free ones, too.
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Getting paid to go to a gig and then talking through it? I'm sure you and your lady friend are lovely people and I wish you many more happy years but also that you don't ruin other concerts / experiences for other people just because you're not a fan, almost any other location I could name is a better setting to have an actual conversation than a venue.

It has literally put me off going to shows (and as angsty teenager as this sounds it's not fudging fair). I saw badbadnotgood in Brum last year and some coked up vertically challenged clown shoe was at times talking louder than the band were playing. And then seemed annoyed by being asked to shut the fudge up. Carried on doing it anyway in a addition to checking his voicemails. I was close to catching a case on that one, although if the judy would have had any sense they'd have understood.
 
Can't argue with you SP about bad behaviour at musical performances. Nowadays, I find myself sharing your exact sentiment. It's epidemic and amplified with Every Mother's Douchebag hoisting cell phones to record concerts. Something they'll likely never watch again. I choose my attendance at concerts very carefully.

Back then however, I was young, enjoying the company of a delightful woman who would one day marry me and, arguably, showing remarkably good taste at finding moments of interest and excitement at one of the most dreary concerts you could imagine. And had the sense to bail out early from it.
 
greatwhitenorf said:
Can't argue with you SP about bad behaviour at musical performances. Nowadays, I find myself sharing your exact sentiment. It's epidemic and amplified with Every Mother's Douchebag hoisting cell phones to record concerts. Something they'll likely never watch again. I choose my attendance at concerts very carefully.

Back then however, I was young, enjoying the company of a delightful woman who would one day marry me and, arguably, showing remarkably good taste at finding moments of interest and excitement at one of the most dreary concerts you could imagine. And had the sense to bail out early from it.
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I've probably done the same myself as well as one time or another, so there is a probably a slightly hypocritical angle with me moaning about others doing it! And yes, phones out at any kind of event are just sadly a standard these days but it's always even more mind boggling when the event is already being recorded by literal professionals with the footage inevitably being made public at a later stage.

Great shouts on the perfect album thread btw, some classics and some stuff I haven't heard but will definitely look in to.
 
Bullet said:
I met my wife at the works Xmas party. 70s theme. Fancy dress. Curly wig. Did NOT want to do any of those things.
Both VERY drunk else it wouldn't have proceeded.
My work colleague (and future wife) came up to me and said "I'll see you outside in 5 minutes".
I said "Eh, what...why?" and she walked off.
2 minutes later she stormed back up to me and said "Where were you?"
I said "It's only been 2 minutes hasn't it?"
Regardless, she dragged me outside, round the side of the tent and onto the 18th green of the golf course.
That was 25 years ago, still happily married. Thank GHod for alochol.
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Did you make the put?
 
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