Muttley
Kasey Keller
I think my big mistake here was not differentiating between 'forums' and 'social media' generally, albeit forums are a part of social media. I answered above on that, so won't repeat here.
With regards to narcissists and empaths, it is a long discussion. Maybe one day we'll get the chance to have it in person. If you're so inclined, I'd be up for discussing it in PM. Unfortunately, in the modern world, developed narcissistic traits get the biggest tangible rewards (your point about senior roles being full of them can be bumped up across world leaders, 'successful' businessman and powerbrokers. It depends on what you value; is it power? Is it money? Is it 'winning arguments'? Or is it living life, letting others live theirs, enjoying discussions where you can learn something sometimes? Anyway, one for a PM or a pub...
What I will add is that I don't judge negativity in isolation, but the repeated need to cycle negativity -especially when accompanied by incredulity that one doesn't agree/see their perspective- becomes an issue for me personally. And again, I have nothing wrong with perspectives, but there's ways to share them.
No big mistake in my mind. You said what came naturally to you in that moment in time. The consequence of the N word comment became a fantastic conversation, and showcased a really open culture on the GG forum.
I'll PM you.