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Dating sites...

Never read the book but have read the net - which I guess builds on that. But to be honest the book just says what you guys all know - no? be funny, be fun, be sexual etc etc etc

Im going on my third date with shortarse and actually talking everyday and stuff - could be a good one. Weird though still cant get the 5ft outta my head but not gonna stop me from going with the flow with her. She is proper into fitness so she can help me - who needs a Personal Trainer eh.

So if I do get married to this girl (that will be the day) - you all better buy a new hat haha.
 
GinolaGinolaGinola said:
This was to approach a group of people be it men and woman or just woman and start a conversation. There were these 3 girls and I said did you see that fight outside with those two girls? We're they your mate etc?

You then we involved and chat but give the girl you like a NEG which is a sarcastic or comment to put them down like "GHod isn't she a bit of an attention seeker" and talk to the girls you don't like trying to make the one you do like jealous.

Then you eventually start talking to her and after a while you say how can you continue this as you have to leave now. Hopefully she will say take my number... Which she did.

Nothing happened though she had just come out of a relationship and clearly didnt want my little sausage... But the theory can work
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I've read all that bit and I get the intro openers and stuff but I dont see how a NEG like that can work. If I went up to a random bunch of birds and did a put down like that then surely their mates would be like who is this random dude insulting my best mate etc
 
Hootnow said:
http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2013/01/a-million-first-dates/309195/1/
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Enjoyed reading that and this extract below is so damn true

"The positive aspects of online dating are clear: the Internet makes it easier for single people to meet other single people with whom they might be compatible, raising the bar for what they consider a good relationship. But what if online dating makes it too easy to meet someone new? What if it raises the bar for a good relationship too high? What if the prospect of finding an ever-more-compatible mate with the click of a mouse means a future of relationship instability, in which we keep chasing the elusive rabbit around the dating track?"

Whilst I never struggled to meet new people through friends, in bars, work etc it requires effort and by that I mean going out to a bar every night, or always looking your best etc - internet is just TOO easy in that you could be bored one night and automatically log on and chat to 20 different girls. Or you can even go on it whilst youre dating someone because its just chatting isnt it? but one thing leads to another etc etc etc.
 
P.D. said:
I've read all that bit and I get the intro openers and stuff but I dont see how a NEG like that can work. If I went up to a random bunch of birds and did a put down like that then surely their mates would be like who is this random dude insulting my best mate etc
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The neg idea is a load of flimflam IMO - you can show that you're imposing, dominant and confident by other means than put downs. As you say, if you put down a girl like that then many will pick up on it (if it's not their mates, then them). Putting a girl down in a jokey manner to be flirty will work, though.
 
Park Lane James said:
The neg idea is a load of flimflam IMO - you can show that you're imposing, dominant and confident by other means than put downs. As you say, if you put down a girl like that then many will pick up on it (if it's not their mates, then them). Putting a girl down in a jokey manner to be flirty will work, though.
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I used to 'neg; a girl before I knew what 'negging' was. Its just playful teasing however some take the teasing TOO far and actually it can be a) insulting to a girl and b) detrimental to you as she will think youre arrogant and actually quite nasty haha.

Be playful and tease I suppose without putting her down. This 5 footer I teased her about her height but she knew full well I was joking etc. She joked about my size. No offence etc.
 
Yeah playful teasing obviously works but that's just being flirty. The way they talk about it is a bit more serious and that would never work with women, if I said she's a bit lairy for a short arse or something in a serious tone I can't see her mates letting me stick around for the rest of my game plan.
 
P.D. said:
I've read all that bit and I get the intro openers and stuff but I dont see how a NEG like that can work. If I went up to a random bunch of birds and did a put down like that then surely their mates would be like who is this random dude insulting my best mate etc
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I know what you mean, on this occasion it did but it wasnt an insult. It was more stuff like she lived in Braintree and I said thats a bit of a brickhole, whereas the other 2 lived in places different and I said that they were nice places.

But I do think you need to take this book with a pinch of salt. As DHSF said, it probably tells us what we already need to know, be funny, smart etc. The last 3 months Ive found a new lease of life as I had an operation to sort out my anxiety and I am one confident and probably ****y dude now.
 
I learnt something new yesterday - apparently you gotta kiss with your eyes closed - is that fudgein right? I kiss with my eyes open most of the time - the girl got freaked out by it - WHAT. THE. fudge?

I have read about this this morning and apparently there is no single way of kissing but the consensus is that if you kiss with eyes open - you cant trust that person and theyre weird.

WHAT. THE. fudge.
 
GinolaGinolaGinola said:
Dude, thats standard!

Not that you're weird, that you kiss with your eyes closed!
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Im not saying I keep them opened throughout the duration but I have them opened id say 70% of the time. hmmmmm

We tried to do it with my eyes closed but just felt so unnatural.
 
Looking forward to my date tonight, been enjoying chatting to her the last few days and hoping that it's going to be up to those levels.

And I definitely close my eyes when I kiss, I mean I could leave them open but it's like when you head a football. You think you can leave your eyes open and then at the moment of impact, you close your eyes and hope that the contact has the desired effect.
 
I was being cheeky last night with her in the texts though but today more of the nerves are kicking in, thinking for her too, well she's bound to be nervous when she is meeting a guy as good looking as myself. But the chat is less easy and feels more pressure, I just want to get the date happening and if it can go well, as it should, then fantastic. :D
 
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