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Does anyone suffer from mental illness on here?

Discussion in 'Randomination' started by Danishfurniturelover, 24 Oct 2016.

  1. Daisuk

    Daisuk Christian Ziege

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    Thanks for the tip! Sounds interesting. I will. :)
     
  2. Gilzeantoscore

    Gilzeantoscore Dean Austin

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    I have suffered from anxiety and depression (self diagnosed), since my marriage broke up about 8 years ago, ( not that that was a bad thing, she was an ********). The only problem is , that since then, just about everything in life seems to just loop out of my control. I feel disempowered by life generally. As I said previously are you depressed if your life is brick?
     
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  3. Daisuk

    Daisuk Christian Ziege

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    You could well be. Especially if you feel disempowered by life in general. Having ups and downs in life is obviously part of the whole rollercoster ride, but if you have prolonged trouble dealing with life, I'd say therapy could help you a lot. I'm not sure how much you know about cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), but it basically teaches you to examine your (automatic) thoughts and how you respond to them. So take for instance a thought like, "everything in my life is brick", which can often be a sort of rule one has made for oneself, without really being aware of it, which will very likely color your evaluation of pretty much everything that happens in your life (good and bad), and you're unable to nuance the evaluation you put on your life experiences. CBT will help you recognize these subconscious "rules" you've made for yourself, and wil help you reframe them and see beyond/through them as self-defeating lies, basically. It's very common for sufferers of depression to de-evaluate everything good in their lives, for instance, and likewise inflate every defeat tenfolds. I've had a few "eureka!" moments in therapy myself, which has basically felt like years of clouds just lifting off my shoulders.

    If you've had trouble with depression and anxiety, and generally feel/think your life is brick, and have felt so for eights years, I would definitely seek out help. Good luck, and know that we've got your back! :) Lots of people struggling with this brick, no shame in seeking help.
     
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    AuroRaman Mauricio Taricco

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    I hope you can be open Chich. Enjoy the rest of your holiday. Stay out of trouble ;)


    Sitting on my porcelain throne using Fapatalk
     
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    AuroRaman Mauricio Taricco

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    I do wonder if there is a correlation between mental health issues and supporting Spurs!


    Sitting on my porcelain throne using Fapatalk
     
  6. Ex-Pat Jennings

    Ex-Pat Jennings Jamie Clapham

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    What a brilliant thread.
    Coming from a family heavily afflicted by depression, this is a very encouraging conversation. Nice to see some progress, this conversation couldn't gave happened in this form even 20 years ago. I also feel that football can be a positive element, 'earthing' aggression that might otherwise be expressed in a harmful manner.
    To everyone facing their own individual struggle, good luck, and an awareness that you're not alone.
    And to DFLover, for starting this off, and for all the times that your perversions have made me laugh (and occasionally vomit!), all the best in finding your way through to a better place for you & yours.
     
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  7. El Guepardo

    El Guepardo Paul Robinson

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    At the moment, I feel like I can't cope with life. I'm writing this, crying my eyes out, and have talked about killing myself within the last 24 hours. I feel like I'm existing, not living. The pain is caused by a combination of my OCD & Anxiety. There is no way to end the pain that I'm feeling now, and so I know that every day I will wake up and silently have to process it. And you know what, I can't continue like this much longer. I have thought about euthanasia on the grounds of mental distress. I'm not the person that I used to be, that mah has long gone. My confidence and drive for life have vanished. I just want to not wake up tomorrow. I can't tell anyone how low I am as its a catch 22. If I tell them, that only serves to escalate the problem. So I have told one friend & that's it. If I knew how many pills to take, I would take them and go to sleep, to dream my final dream. But as it is, my fear of attempting suicide and failing, or the pain that I would experience, keep me from taking action. I just want an 'off' button, that's nice & easy.
     
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    the dza Christian Ziege

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    It's good that you have at least written something on here. Sometimes easier to talk to strangers than people close to you. I'm sorry for your pain. If it helps, post some more in here, even if it's just a rant or whatever.
     
  9. Danishfurniturelover

    Danishfurniturelover the prettiest spice girl

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    I am on my phone so cant send a PM but seriously please dont do anything.

    Give a close friend a call or the Samartians they are trained for this. Exercise helps me, maybe go for a jog. Watch some youtube vids for deep breathing exercises.

    Your not alone buddy. Keep relaxed and give someone a call.
     
  10. LemonadeMoney

    LemonadeMoney Paul Robinson

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    Probably not the right person to answer this, but I find troubles are never as bad a day or a week after, as you think they are in the moment.
    And for what it's worth, you come across on here as a solid person, so I don't doubt that's what people think in person.
     
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    Bullet Cecil Poynton

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    Woah there mate, give these guys a call right now

    https://www.thecalmzone.net/

    Nationwide 0800 58 58 58

    London 0808 802 58 58

    https://www.thecalmzone.net/about-calm/what-is-calm/

    The Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM) is an award-winning charity dedicated to preventing male suicide, the single biggest killer of men under the age of 45 in the UK. In 2015, 75% of all UK suicides were male
     
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    ricky2tricky4city Steffen Iversen

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    Hey @El Guepardo give the guys in the link below a look. They really helped a couple of friends in the past that were having dark days like you. They can support you in anyway you need. It's a charity specifically for men. We all know it takes a lot for a man to come forward when they are having a bad time of it. BUT you made a start by posting on here. Thats something to be proud of. Have a look....they WILL help you.

    https://www.thecalmzone.net/
     
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    ricky2tricky4city Steffen Iversen

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    parklane1 Gary Stevens

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    Hang in there mate and take some of the advice that others have posted with links to places that can help. All i can say is that i have been where you are at this moment in time( my post earlier in thread) and there is sunshine in life you just have to believe there is to find it.
     
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    PochettinoPochettinoPochettino Serge Aurier

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    El geupardo you really aren't alone, I've been there and nearly came close many years ago. But I came through it. Please please do call any of those numbers or Pm any of us above to talk about this. There are so many people to talk to and we are all here for you, seriously bro.
     
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    El Guepardo Paul Robinson

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    Thank you all for the support, I headed to the gym to try to get myself sorted. The gym has been a saviour at times like this, that and running. I need a positive focus, and something to aim for. Last year, I had three weeks off work sick and the only consolation is that I'm not as bad as I was during that time. I could barely talk to anyone properly during that time, I was consumed by my inner demons, and fighting a fight which people very close to me conceded that they thought that I would lose, with fears of both suicide and of me ending up needing psychiatric help. I try to move on, each day, and there are good spells but I'm not the same person as I was, and my zest for life is diminished. I am more within my shell, and I know that I isolate myself more than is good for me. Last year, during one of the spells, I ended up attending the local police station as concerns over my well being had been raised by family. Really, I keep trying to move on but thoughts of suicide, and wanting to disappear are never far away. I know that I have to keep moving forward and that when I get spells like earlier, sit through them, knowing that I can come out of the other end... but... it's not a great thought to know that the time will come when I go through this again, and again. I promise that I won't take my own life, I will keep going, and I apologise for the strength of my comments but they were reflective of my mental mind set at the time, and during other times. I know that I'm not well, I just have to deal with life as best as I can. Again, thank you all, it means a lot to me that you have taken the time to reply, and to know that others out there, those that don't know me personally, care to respond and to provide advice, guidance and support.
     
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    PochettinoPochettinoPochettino Serge Aurier

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    Post every time on here when you're down dude. Someone will reply if not all of us. We are one big family on here regardless of if we haven't even met each other.

    Don't ever apologise for your thoughts or rants or whatever, the world is gradually realising that men suffer and badly but you can repair yourself no matter how fcuked up you may think you are.
     
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    Aldo Goran Bunjevcevic

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    Sorry to hear of your struggles, looks like there has been a lot of good advice sent your way.

    Re: the piece above - have you considered signing up for a 10k / half marathon? If running has been a saviour and you need a focus, I'm sure that having a clearly defined goal like that would help you keep your mind on a positive track.
     
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    El Guepardo Paul Robinson

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    Thank you for your post. I think I need to start entering events again. The furthest that I've ran is a Half Marathon, but that was a year and a half back. I'm wanting to run a full marathon, I've trained towards it but injuries keep setting me back. I'm spending time working out at the gym, I've had a series of personal training sessions, so I'm more up with how to train, but I'm still learning.

    I think I'm going to return to the doctor's too. I was on Citalopram at the highest dose, but stopped a while back, of my own accord. But, nights like tonight make me think that I didn't make the right choice. I came off cold turkey, from the highest dose to nothing.

    Thank you GinolaGinolaGinola mate. I think the reality of mental illnesses is become more prevalent in today's World. In the past, mental illnesses were dismissed all too easily. Thankfully I have an understanding employer who has stood by me through all of this. My manager has been a star, even if some 'tough love' was used as well as the support.
     
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    Bullet Cecil Poynton

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    I know almost nothing about these drugs or your case, but I believe you should nearly always make these sorts of changes slowly and monitor (keep a diary of) your feelings/behaviours very closely as you vary dosage, rather than just going cold turkey.

    I was amazed that when I had a nasty accident and I was given a serious painkiller (Tramadol), I had the worst night of my life with vivid nightmares, very frightening, I thought the world was out to get me and bad things were coming for me, it was really terrible at the time but seems silly looking back... I told the nurse and the next night they gave me a different painkiller (morphine) and I felt absolutely fine, no side effects at all. Both stopped the pain, but one made me change massively psychologically in just a couple of hours. Drugs are VERY powerful things!
     
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