1. This site uses cookies. By continuing to use this site, you are agreeing to our use of cookies. Learn More.
  2. Dear Guest, Please note that adult content is not permitted on this forum. We have had our Google ads disabled due to some posts that were found from some time ago. Please do not post adult content and if you see any already on the forum, please report the post so that we can deal with it. Thanks, scara
    Dismiss Notice

Does anyone suffer from mental illness on here?

Discussion in 'Randomination' started by Danishfurniturelover, 24 Oct 2016.

  1. Rorschach

    Rorschach Erik Thorstvedt

    Joined:
    14 Jan 2012
    Messages:
    22,631
    Likes Received:
    11,201
    Location:
    ...here
    This thread always gives me a little hope for men. How much do we have to bottle up before it spills over?
    I have watched men, young men, old men, contain every emotion they ever had and not say a word about it to anyone. I love this thread.
     
    markysimmo, Robbo, Daisuk and 8 others like this.
  2. Mikey10

    Mikey10 Neil Sullivan

    Joined:
    26 Jul 2016
    Messages:
    1,987
    Likes Received:
    1,976
    Location:
    Dorset (via N Ireland)
    Hope you’re doing okay, buddy. Like everything in life those feelings will pass. Bit of a cliche, but it’s true.

    The mood app is a very good idea. I went through a serious depressive episode 15 years or so ago. Keeping a diary was one of the things that worked best for me- it helped me remember that there were times when it all felt fine and that gave me something to hold on to in the really bleak moments.
     
  3. monkeybarry

    monkeybarry Dean Richards

    Joined:
    14 Jan 2012
    Messages:
    6,291
    Likes Received:
    2,462
    Location:
    St Albans
    Cheers mate!
    I have this habit of taking on too much all the time anyway, so the app gives me a graph instead of having to think about how I've been feeling - GHod knows that's a crap idea with anxiety:D

    Had a weird weekend in Oslo.
    Started the trip feeling that I don't want to just travel solo anymore as it's nice to share experiences.
    On a walking tour I bumped into someone I play netball with every week, but don't know that well. Spent the rest of the trip trying to make sure we didn't bump into eachother again. I'm not good at small talk etc
    Ended up not doing a couple of things I really wanted to do. Doh.

    Weirdly starting to feel old now too. I'll be 38 in June. Suddenly 40 feels significant. Need to get my next relationship right.

    Edit; apparently I'll be 37 in June. :confused:
     
  4. StephenH

    StephenH Tom Huddlestone

    Joined:
    21 Jun 2015
    Messages:
    13,797
    Likes Received:
    6,689
    Location:
    SW London
    Your still a baby MB.

    Relationships are like the weather, you can't control them. So as for trying to get "the next one right", just take a waterproof coat and enjoy.

    Oslo is a nice town, wasn't very wheelchair friendly back in 1995.

    Look after yourself geezer!
     
  5. monkeybarry

    monkeybarry Dean Richards

    Joined:
    14 Jan 2012
    Messages:
    6,291
    Likes Received:
    2,462
    Location:
    St Albans
    Cheers dude.
    I guess I'm just used to solid relationships and don't want to waste my time, life is too short (says the guys that was suicidal a few years ago:D:D).
    I need to just "go with it" a bit more.

    Oslo is definitely wheelchair friendly now, however I'm not sure the weather is when the snow starts to melt!
     
  6. StephenH

    StephenH Tom Huddlestone

    Joined:
    21 Jun 2015
    Messages:
    13,797
    Likes Received:
    6,689
    Location:
    SW London
    Chilling out has to be worked at mate. I’ve only had about 4 proper relationships in my 66 years and the current one is in its 39 year so I know SFA about them! My wife is a saint to put up with me, as she frequently tells me.
    Snow is the devils dandruff!! I use a pair of crutches to get about over short distances, so snow is a no no!
     
    Jon and monkeybarry like this.
  7. ringo

    ringo Eidur Gudjohnsen

    Joined:
    14 Jan 2012
    Messages:
    2,841
    Likes Received:
    798
    Location:
    I told them we already got one
    Having suffered from periodic bouts of poor mental health over many years, I always find the loss of control and inevitable, if slow, descent horrible, and the pain and aggravation it causes loved ones. You certainly discover who cares about you, though.
     
  8. Danishfurniturelover

    Danishfurniturelover Cecil Poynton

    Joined:
    15 Jan 2012
    Messages:
    12,548
    Likes Received:
    5,090
    Location:
    Up your arse
    It is almost like fighting an addiction how on the ball and alert you have to be to your problems all the time.

    Was a bad night, about 2 hours sleep, sort of flitting between wake and sleep, I know all the techniques for getting to sleep, but when those ghosts from your past come visiting the is no chance.

    One of my friends walked out on his wife and kids and has gone camping in the New Forest. Going to drive down there try and find him and see what is going on with him. He shares similar personality traits to me and had been talking about anxiety. Sort of caught up in my own issues I had not really noticed.

    Said to Lucy my wife that maybe he just needs some time away, I feel like it sometimes that you just need to be on your own and some space and that can do you good. Thought about driving to York to see a rail museum then wondered if that was me going mad. It is the constant second guessing and trying to work out why you do what you do. So tiring to be on it the whole time.

    Brighton half marathon tomorrow, going to go and watch. Was planning on doing it next year, I cant run though, to many years of excessive cycling means it feels funny on my legs, im a cyclist.

    Love you all, stay healthy.
     
    Charliedup, Robbo, Daisuk and 4 others like this.
  9. monkeybarry

    monkeybarry Dean Richards

    Joined:
    14 Jan 2012
    Messages:
    6,291
    Likes Received:
    2,462
    Location:
    St Albans
    Big hugs dude
     
  10. SpurMeUp

    SpurMeUp Chris Perry

    Joined:
    5 Feb 2012
    Messages:
    10,491
    Likes Received:
    3,752
    Sounds like you’ve been beating yourself up (rather than off) about the past - which is done - can only move forward! What are the techniques?
     
  11. thfcsteff

    thfcsteff Colin Calderwood Staff Member

    Joined:
    14 Jan 2012
    Messages:
    17,354
    Likes Received:
    7,527

    I think needing time to yourself is of paramount importance mate. Me and my missus recognize it, and often make sure that we find the time for each other to take off for a couple of days solo here and there. I think the hardest thing about ghosts and pasts is fully realizing that they are "gone" and now is now. So simply on paper/screen, so hard in real life, but in those moments of solo time, the key I believe is to do simply stuff like stare at a cloud or a bird or a tree and just watch it. Marvel at the shapes, the light, anything which draws you into contemplating how amazingly great and intricate seemingly simple brick can be. From there you start to feel a sense of satisfaction about the "moment" and then hopefully you bring that to realizing that the "moment" is what we have the greatest degree of control over, so choose the bright path.

    Drive to York, see that rail museum and be grateful you still have the capacity to enjoy such things my friend.
    Be well.
     
    Mikey10, Mr_B, Daisuk and 5 others like this.
  12. Bullet

    Bullet Christian Ziege

    Joined:
    14 Jan 2012
    Messages:
    10,913
    Likes Received:
    5,840
    Good luck. Remember what happened with Raul Moat, the chicken, the fishing rod and Gazza.
     
  13. Grays_1890

    Grays_1890 Gerry Armstrong

    Joined:
    1 Feb 2012
    Messages:
    4,314
    Likes Received:
    2,082
    I have lost my marbles today as my Skypes locked me out, the email I registered it with is an old work one and i cant get back in. Lost everything.
     
  14. Danishfurniturelover

    Danishfurniturelover Cecil Poynton

    Joined:
    15 Jan 2012
    Messages:
    12,548
    Likes Received:
    5,090
    Location:
    Up your arse
    Watching the Parkinsons programme on channel 2. Feel like throwing up, but it is good, weird mixture of fear and hope. Strange emotions to go through.

    Really hope it works for people.

    I am going to China for the stem cell one next January/February.
     
    90291Spur, Robbo, Daisuk and 3 others like this.
  15. Jon

    Jon Mitchell Thomas

    Joined:
    14 Jan 2012
    Messages:
    5,103
    Likes Received:
    4,416
    Good luck fella
     
    Robbo and monkeybarry like this.
  16. StephenH

    StephenH Tom Huddlestone

    Joined:
    21 Jun 2015
    Messages:
    13,797
    Likes Received:
    6,689
    Location:
    SW London
    Keep positive Mr.
     
  17. Rorschach

    Rorschach Erik Thorstvedt

    Joined:
    14 Jan 2012
    Messages:
    22,631
    Likes Received:
    11,201
    Location:
    ...here
    Mate, keep this thread pure. Plenty of threads for messing around in.
     
    Mikey10, Robbo, milo and 3 others like this.
  18. Grays_1890

    Grays_1890 Gerry Armstrong

    Joined:
    1 Feb 2012
    Messages:
    4,314
    Likes Received:
    2,082
    Well I have suffered from the big D, so I can laught about it now
     
  19. Rorschach

    Rorschach Erik Thorstvedt

    Joined:
    14 Jan 2012
    Messages:
    22,631
    Likes Received:
    11,201
    Location:
    ...here
    Glad to hear it. Laughter is the best medicine.
     
    Grays_1890 likes this.
  20. DeanoAustin

    DeanoAustin Kasey Keller

    Joined:
    13 Feb 2013
    Messages:
    2,716
    Likes Received:
    3,330
    fudging struggling a bit at the moment. Without going into too much detail, myself and my wife had a massive blowout Christmas Day. She got drunk and verbally abused me and attempted to go for me in front of the kids. Wasn’t the first time. Since then she’s denied, denied, denied. She pushed it down the legal route. Got served with court papers last week where, amongst other flimflam, she falsely used the death of my father last year against me. Have to go see a barrister tomorrow to respond to the justifications for ending the marriage she made against me.

    Last month, my mam was diagnosed with cancer. She got bought into hospital last week and yesterday I spent the day holding the hand of a petrified 83 year old woman crying for her mother. The doctors told us yesterday to prepare ourselves.

    The only things that have bought me much pleasure over the last two months have been Spurs and my kids. I guess they’re the only two things that are for life. Yesterday was one of the brickest days I’ve had but it felt great to leave out a scream when Harry scored. Football isn’t as important as life and death, nowhere near, but it’s fudging wonderful.

    Not sure why I’ve gone and put all that on here. Been struggling under the weight of it today I guess and the people on here have always struck me as good uns too.
     

Share This Page